If this is the right thing, then why does it hurt so much?
Throughout life we have to make many choices, and we are relatively in control of which direction our lives go. Sometimes the choices are simple, some are extremely challenging. We have to make decisions on what to wear, what to eat, where to live, what path to take, what to study, who to marry, when to move, the list goes on and on!
But one thing we cannot control is who we love and how we feel. Yet we are still (sometimes) forced to make decisions about these things because sometimes the universe has alternative plans for our lives than what we would like to happen. Let me first say that the roads you take in life are essentially the ones you’re meant to take to end up where you eventually end up. Despite some roads being rocky, bumpy or flat and smooth, we’re all meant to venture along these paths and learn these lessons so that we come out ‘on top’ so to speak. We wouldn’t be faced with challenges in life that we couldn’t overcome. The strongest people often go through the toughest shit because they are able to handle it and move forward. Sadly however there are some cases where people don’t believe in themselves or their own strength and do not make it where or how they should.
We are faced with decisions that challenge us and force us to grow and learn. My trick is to remain true to yourself and to always try to focus on the bright and positive sides of life and its challenges. Lately a few painful decisions have been made and despite them hurting me and others around me, I know that things have to be this way. It is the right thing, the right path for us all to be going on. The new roads will open to wider spaces and greater paddocks that we never saw before. Our minds will become more focused on the things we missed out on seeing when we were too busy focusing our lives on the immediate objects that were always right in front of us.
At the end of the day, the only person you have is yourself. So you need to look after you. You need to do what makes you happy and not worry about others so much and definitely try not to worry about what others think of you. No one is going to save you. You must be the one to save yourself. Sure you can have ounces of support and love and care from people, but essentially you are the only one who knows what you want. You’re the only one who knows how to make you happy. You have to fight for what you want. And let go of the things you cannot control. Make peace with your past so that you can forgive and move forward. Forgive but don’t forget. The weak cannot forgive. Forgiveness isn’t about giving in to someone who has hurt you, it’s about being a strong person for yourself so that you can find your happiness with life. Forgive them, even if they are not sorry. Forgiveness is only an attribute of the strong. So be strong. Do it for you.
You know in your heart what is the right thing to do. Sometimes it hurts. A lot of the time it’s going to hurt. But if it’s the right thing, you’ll know. And sometimes the healing is in the aching.